Some couples choose their wedding bands based on each spouse’s personal preference and don’t worry about whether they match or go well together. Others prefer a matched set, including the engagement ring. Then there are others that fall somewhere in between, not necessarily wanting a perfectly matched set, but also not wanting their bands to be totally different than their partners. Complementary bands are ideal in this case.
But how do you choose them?
Decide what you want to match
Do you want the engagement ring to match the wedding band? Do you want the metals to be the same, or the styles, or the textures? Maybe you want stones in your wedding band, and that’s what you want to match. The key is to determine what you want to match first, and then search for those things.
Remember that complementary doesn’t mean exact duplicates
You can get a matched wedding set if that’s what you want, but if you’re looking for complementary bands, you need to think “matched, yet not matched.” Some examples would include:
- A highly polished gold ring for one spouse, with a matte or satin finish gold ring for the other
- Two metals braided together, if you each want a different metal
- An eternity ring studded with stones for her, while his has three of the same stone, in the same size
- Three diamonds placed vertically in a traditional yellow gold setting for her, and a masculine gray or black tungsten for him
- Two rings made of the same metal in different styles
- Two rings in the same style made of different metals
Design your own
Sometimes the best way to get complementary wedding sets, if you’re a bit creative, is to design your own. By designing your own, you give yourself the freedom to include the things that are most important to you as a couple, without being restricted by a pre-made ring.
Buy a whole set together
If the bride-to-be prefers to be surprised by her engagement ring but prefers some say in her wedding band, this may not be ideal. Otherwise, asking the jeweller for help in choosing an engagement ring and complementary bands at the same time can often get you what you’re looking for. Even if the jeweller doesn’t have the entire set in stock at the time, they can order it for you.
Ask the jeweller for recommendations
If you’re really stumped, asking the jeweller for help can clear things up. Most jewellery sales staff are trained to be able to guide their customers through the buying process, and part of that is being able to help them find jewellery of all kinds that go well with what someone already has.
Ideally, your wedding rings will last the entirety of your marriage. Choose carefully, and don’t hesitate to ask for help. You want something that is comfortable and makes you happy.